Do you have a friend, co-worker, or family member that is in an abusive relationship?
Many people ask, “So why doesn’t she or he just leave”?
The question isn’t why doesn’t the victim leave; the question is, “Why does the partner abuse her”?
Some Reasons Victims Might Stay
- See no way out
- Being threatened
- To protect the children
- Religious, cultural or family beliefs would condemn him or her for not being a good spouse
- Abuser is a community leader or authority figure
- Nobody would believe him or her
- Low self-esteem
- Chances of injury or death due to domestic violence increase by 75% after a victim leaves
- Financial considerations
- Isolation from friends and family
What can you do?
- Become educated about domestic violence
- Recognize the signs
- Reach out to anyone you feel may be a victim, show your support and concern
- Listen and believe when someone talks about domestic violence
- Provide a list of community resources to individuals seeking help
- Encourage victims to use the resources to help themselves and their children
- Make others aware of the magnitude of domestic violence
What can you say?
- “I am concerned for you and your children.”
- “You didn’t/don’t cause the violence.”
- “You don’t deserve to be abused.”
- “Abuse is not love.”
- “You are not alone.”
- “There are people you can talk to who know about domestic violence.”
- “I am sorry this is happening to you.”
- “You are brave to reach out for help.”
- “I am proud of you for protecting yourself and your children.”
- “Be proud of yourself.”
