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Safety Planning

Safety Planning

Safety Planning When Experiencing Intimate Partner Violence

Your safety is the most important thing. Listed below are tips to help keep you safe. The resources in this website can help you to make a safety plan that works best for you.  It can be very helpful to talk with an advocate about safety planning. Project Safeguard can help you build a detailed Safety Plan that works for you. Many of the resources listed on this website can also help you and you can download our Safety Plan Template in English or Spanish.


  • Having important phone numbers nearby for you and your children. Numbers to have include the police, hotlines, friends, and the local shelter.
  • Friends or neighbors you could tell about the abuse. Ask them to call the police or a trusted emergency contact if they hear angry or violent noises. If you have children, teach them how to dial 911 or a trusted emergency contact. Make up a code word that you can use when you need help.
  • How to get out of your home safely. Practice ways to get out.
  • Safer places in your home where there are exits and no weapons. If you feel abuse is going to happen, try to get your abuser to one of these safer places.
  • Any weapons in the house. Think about ways that you could get them out of the house.


Think of how you might leave. Try doing things that get you out of the house – taking out the trash, walking the pet or going to the store. Put together a bag of things you use every day (see the checklist below). Hide it where it is easy for you to get.


  • Four places you could go if you leave your home.
  • People who might help you if you left. Think about people who will keep a bag for you. Think about people who might lend you money. Make plans for your pets.
  • Keeping change for phone calls or getting a cell phone.
  • Opening a bank account or getting a credit card in your name.
  • How you might leave. Try doing things that get you out of the house – taking out the trash, walking the family pet, or going to the store. Practice how you would leave.
  • How you could take your children with you safely. There are times when taking your children with you may put all your lives in danger. You need to protect yourself to be able to protect your children.
  • Putting together a bag of things you use every day. Hide it where it is easy for you to get.


  • Children (if it is safe)
  • Money
  • Keys to car, house, work
  • Extra clothes
  • Medicine
  • Important papers for you and your children
  • Birth certificates
  • Social security cards
  • School and medical records
  • Bank books, credit cards
  • Driver’s license
  • Car registration
  • Welfare identification
  • Passports, green cards, work permits
  • Lease/rental agreement
  • Mortgage payment book, unpaid bills
  • Insurance papers
  • PPO, divorce papers, custody orders
  • Address book
  • Pictures, jewelry, things that mean a lot to you
  • Items for your children (toys, blankets, etc.)


  • Your safety – you still need to.
  • Getting a cell phone. Project Safeguard may be able to provide you with a cell phone that is programmed to only call 911. These phones are for when you need to call the police and cannot get to any other phone.
  • Getting a Civil Protection Order from the court. Keep a copy with you all the time. Give a copy to the police, people who take care of your children, their schools, and your boss.
  • Changing the locks. Consider putting in stronger doors, smoke and carbon monoxide detectors, a security system, and outside lights.
  • Telling friends and neighbors that your abuser no longer lives with you. Ask them to call the police if they see your abuser near your home or children.
  • Telling people who take care of your children the names of people who are allowed to pick them up. If you have a Protection Order protecting your children, give their teachers and caretakers a copy of it.
  • Telling someone at work about what has happened. Ask that person to screen your calls. If you have a Protection Order that includes where you work, consider giving your boss a copy of it and a picture of the abuser. Think about and practice a safety plan for your workplace. This should include going to and from work.
  • Not using the same stores or businesses that you did when you were with your abuser.
  • Someone that you can call if you feel down. Call that person if you are thinking about going to a support group or workshop.
  • Safe way to speak with your abuser if you must.
  • Going over your safety plan often.

WARNING: Abusers try to control their victim’s lives. When abusers feel a loss of control – like when victims try to leave them – the abuse often gets worse. Take special care if/when you leave and even after you have left.

Our offices will be closed from June 5 through June 9 and we will return on June 12. Anyone needing immediate assistance during this closure can reach out to SafeHouse Denver (24/7 hotline for survivors of domestic violence) at 303-318-9989 or The Blue Bench (24/7 hotline for survivors of sexual assault) at 303-322-7273. Additional local and national resources can be found on our Resources page.